The Forgotten Virtue of Stability

When people think about the vows that a monk or a nun takes before God (if they think about such things at all), three likely come to mind: chastity, poverty, and obedience. Such vows are quite striking, since in the modern world these three things are no longer generally considered to be virtues common to the life of all Christians, exemplified in monasticism chiefly by the degree to which they are put into practice. Indeed, to the world at large these three things, each in their own way, have become essentially anti-virtues. Celibacy, poverty, and obedience are no longer regarded as ideals to be esteemed, but as social ills to be eradicated.

But there is another vow made by monastics, a vow to practice a virtue that has gradually become lost to us so thoroughly (even to the Christians of the modern world) that it is scarcely thought about at all. If it is, then it is almost certainly never thought about as a virtue, nor as something with any moral or spiritual dimension to it at all. That vow is the vow of stability.

Therefore it might come as a surprise that this vow is not only given in the Service of Monastic Tonsure, but that it actually precedes the other, better-known vows. Immediately after the candidate declares his or her renunciation of the world, the superior asks: “Wilt thou abide in this Monastery or in that to which under holy obedience thou shalt be ordered, and in the ascetic life until thy last breath?” And the candidate answers: “Yes, God helping me, Reverend Father.” Only then does the candidate go on to give his or her other vows, and afterward to receive tonsure into the schema.

Why is this vow of stability — the vow to not only remain a monk or a nun, but to remain a monk or a nun in one particular monastery — considered so necessary to the monastic life that it is given before all other vows? Why should it matter if a monastic might wish to pursue their vocation in some other monastery at some point in the future? To those of us accustomed to the ubiquitous interchangeability so carefully engineered for the modern world, such dogged insistence on remaining in the same place for one’s entire life — come what may — might seem more than a little strange.

But just as with all the other monastic vows, the vow of stability is not simply an arbitrary test of faith or of commitment; on the contrary, it is given because of its irreplaceable ability to bring about spiritual healing in the heart of the monastic. And just as with all the other monastic vows, it represents a virtue that — although put into practice most fully in the monastic context — should be present to some degree in the life of all Christians.

First and foremost, the vow of stability is the foundation stone of repentance. It allows the monastic to come face to face with the great truth that the roots of all the various troubles in our life are to be found not in our outward circumstances, but in our own hearts. By choosing to turn our backs on the easy promises of the “geographic cure” in all its varied manifestations, we force ourselves instead to turn inward, to confront the sin inside us that is the true cause of all our pain and loneliness and unhappiness, and to allow the light of Christ to gradually drive that darkness from our lives. Without such a vow, it becomes all too easy for us to blame this or that person or place or thing for our problems, and so to become trapped in an endless and fruitless effort to change our circumstances, rather than to change our hearts.

Even more than this, the vow of stability is the seed of true Christian love. In a world where even the closest human relationships all too often seem to have become more or less disposable, the monastic makes a solemn promise before God to remain in the same community, with the same people, until the day he or she dies. To live — all day every day — shoulder to shoulder with people whom we did not choose (and whom we may not even like) is not always a small or easy thing. But it is a path to a love far deeper and truer and more meaningful than even the closest worldly friendship can attain: it is a path to the love of Christ, to a love capable of seeing and serving and knowing the image of God in every single person that we meet. It is a path that our rootless, lonely, and atomized age needs now more than ever.

Not everyone is called to the monastic life, and the monastic vows are of course not meant for those living in the world. But the virtues enshrined in the monastic vows are simply the virtues preached by Christ in the Gospels, belonging equally to every Christian. And so I think that every Christian would do well to give careful and prayerful consideration to the advice once given by St. Anthony the Great, the founder of cenobitic monasticism:

Someone asked [Abba Anthony]: “What must one do in order to please God?” The old man replied, “Pay attention to what I tell you: whoever you may be, always have God before your eyes; whatever you do, do it according to the testimony of the holy Scriptures; in whatever place you live, do not easily leave it. Keep these three precepts and you will be saved.”

-Sayings of the Desert Fathers


  1. Trying to put down roots in the modern world has proved exceedingly difficult for me personally, due to health problems and the concomitant economic hardship. I was blessed to have a single home in a small town during my critical growing up years of ages 5-14, but since then I have moved more times than I can even remember. I once moved 11 times in 2 years. One result of this is that I never got to attached to anyone. It wasn’t until I became Orthodox that I intentionally allowed myself to become part of a community. I cannot imagine my Orthodox journey without my Priest and my Parish family. But it wasn’t an easy process. After 5 years of one foot in and one foot out, I actually left the Church for 7 years because I wasn’t fully committed to the Faith. Then my life fell apart (again!) and I heard a voice tell me very clearly that I needed to return to Saint Seraphim (my parish church) which was in a completely different State from where I was living. However, I didn’t question it, and returned to my Priest and Parish who all welcomed me back with open arms. That was 7 years ago now, and I have probably never made a better decision in my life. But staying in this area has been a challenge: 2 years of homelessness, 1 year at a local women’s monastery, and now 4 years with one of my Priest’s very elderly mother. I have no idea where God will place me after this, but I trust Him to take care of me one way or another. I have really come to understand the value of staying in one place and remaining committed to one community, whether a specific Church, Marriage, or Monastery.

    Thank you for articulating and delineating the importance of this (nearly lost) virtue.

    1. Thank you for sharing your experiences! Truly the Christian life is the Cross, but “through the Cross joy has come to all the world.”

  2. Wonderful, Father! Please write more on the life of monasticism and how it should be reflected (even in small ways) in the ascetic lives of the lay people of the Church!

    1. I plan to do a small series on the monastic virtues and their importance for our society, God willing.

  3. I was reading Fr. Farley’s recent entry on a similar topic and commented that I have a personal conviction that I would live as if there were such a thing as an American Orthodox Church in that geographically I would submit myself to that parish by proximity, and not leave it. I have not yet been pressed for some reason to leave, but it is there in my conscience should that occur. Forgiveness Sunday has reinforced this to me in a deep way. Forgiveness Sunday would be quite meaningless (except in the sense of failure in the most general sense, and here it still has value, I’m not saying it doesn’t) if we were church shopping continually. But the desire to improve via geography, except for people who are being victimized, I have seen that it is an illusion. Even vacations offer a similar illusion/distraction, at least they do for me. Paul’s admonition to stability is so obvious and it is based on Providence. Seeking to undo some external thing about your life becomes quite unnecessary if Providence is real and if you will be raised for life in the Age to come. I’ve thought, that in Christian conversations, often not Orthodox, about everything from divorce to identity issues, St. Paul’s clear admonition not “undo” the external life but to focus on the renewal of the inner man, it’s as if the principle has no bearing on anything – there’s no obvious application/it doesn’t ring a bell/it doesn’t inform the conscience. I Corinthians 7:17 Only let each person lead the life that the Lord has assigned to him, and to which God has called him. This is my rule in all the churches.

    Thank you for all your contributions here. They are penetrating to the heart.

    Matthew Lyon

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