Indifference and Trying Harder

In my last post, Finding Peace Despite Sinful Thoughts, I spoke of the struggle to accept the struggle, to be at peace despite ongoing sinful thought.  I compared this struggle to the battle I have in my garden with bindweed.

One of the readers of that article wrote the following comment, and I thought that I would share my response with everyone.  Here’s the comment:

Thank you Father, One of the problems I have is that when I deal with my own “weeds”, I think I do not get upset enough about them. I understand that I am a mess and God will love and forgive me anyway, so I don’t get that upset about it and move on and try to be a little better. This sounds fine and dandy, but then I feel like if I did get upset that I would try harder to be better. I guess knowing that His love is so strong does not give me the urgency to improve, leaving me to feel sort of indifferent. Despair is not good but neither is indifference. Any thoughts?

Here’s my response:

Indifference is certainly not good, but a lot depends on what one is feeling indifferent about.  To be indifferent toward a destructive behaviour is certainly not good; however, to be indifferent toward, in the sense of despising,  a reoccurring sinful thought may indeed be one useful strategy against it.

The words, “try harder to be better,” also trouble me.  Certainly we must all do our best to do good.  However, one of the fundamental Christian teachings is that I can’t be good by trying harder to fulfil the law (the main point of Romans chapter 7).  It is the Life in Christ, energized by the Spirit, that makes us into who we are called to be.  And so, trying harder to be better may actually be a distraction.  Instead of turning our eyes to Christ, trying harder to be better turns our focus in the wrong direction.  We focus on our outward failures as though by trying harder we could correct them despite our repeated failures in the face of  our having actually tried harder.   Rather, these failures need to instruct us that trying harder to be better is not the answer.  Neither is the answer to stop trying.  Rather, the answer is to turn our focus inward.  Sure, there is always an ongoing effort to flee or resist temptation, but without a growing attentiveness to Christ in our hearts, the One to whom we flee, our mere outward efforts prove futile.

So if I were to get upset about anything, it would not be that I continue to have sinful thoughts or that I fail repeatedly in one way or another.  No.  What I would get upset about is that I don’t care, the fact that I am indifferent.  That’s where the real problem lies: inside my heart, not outside in my thoughts or actions.  That I sometimes don’t even want to flee to Christ is itself a motivation to flee to Christ.  That is, sometimes I run to Christ with nothing but my apathy:  “Lord, look at how spiritually lazy and uncaring I am!  Help me.  I cannot help myself.  Lord have mercy on my spiritually lazy soul!”

I find it quite instructive that very holy saints repeatedly refer to themselves as utterly sinful people.  It seems holiness increases the awareness of our own sin and brokenness.  Therefore, if our focus is on trying harder to be better, we may actually be working against the Spirit of holiness that is working within us.  Saint Paul said that we have to walk (live) in the Spirit not to fulfil the lusts of the flesh. It is one of the ironies of Christian life: by not paying so much attention to the impulses of the flesh we, by the work of the Holy Spirit, overcome the flesh; but this then makes us more aware of our sinfulness, leading us back to Christ through whom, by the work of the Holy Spirit, we increasingly overcome the flesh by not paying that much attention to it.

Yes, I know that sounds crazy.  Circular arguing.  But it is this very sort of irony that makes up much of the Christian experience.  Life enters death.  You must go down to go up.  Christ is glorified through death.  Sin is overcome not merely by resisting, but by fleeing to Christ.  And for most of those who will ever read this, our problem isn’t that we haven’t resisted sin.  Rather, our problem is that we pay too much attention to resisting sin and not enough attention to fleeing to Christ.



  1. In my early Orthodox walk, I feel that I am “ever striving” and I’m slowly coming to realize that it’s all a futile show if I’m not focused on Christ, I need to return to just learning to become a human being. I need to go down to go up. That is my focus. Lord have mercy.

  2. Dear Father Michael,

    I wanted to email you regarding your older blog article about God’s wrath, but the telas email has expired.

    Would you kindly let me know if there is an alternative email. That would mean a lot to me.

  3. Thank you Father. Sorry it took so long to read your response. I saw the email, but I usually like to listen to you and was waiting for the podcast. Today I am away at a conference and decided to read my emails that were waiting in my inbox and I saw your reply to my question. (One of the lectures was not applicable to me.) I am starting to understand. Many times, I feel to be like the Pharisee trying hard to fulfill the law while neglecting my inner peace with Christ. I rely on myself rather than Christ. I forget that I don’t need to try hard as hard to be better when I focus on Him. The Holy Spirit will work in me and guide me along my own spiritual path. Thank you. I love your podcast. Hope you are well. God bless.

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