Converting Our Friends

How can we bring our friends and relatives into Holy Orthodoxy?

Many visitors to the monastery share their joy at having discovered the True Faith, but wonder how they might draw family members and friends into Orthodoxy. They often assume that means debating the truth of Orthodoxy’s claim to being the Ancient Church preserved into this age, or think they should perhaps gift their friends with books on Orthodoxy. But, the truth is that we can never convince another of the truth of Orthodoxy by preaching from our rational mind, for only the heart can touch another heart.

We must never debate or attack another person’s beliefs, for only a meek and humble heart can communicate the truth of our Faith to another person. Love, humility, and kindness, are the only vehicles that allow us to share Orthodoxy. Our friends and relatives will only be drawn to the Church, if they see in us the love of Christ, and see in us a transformation and holiness that demonstrates the truth of the Orthodox Church, and the sacramental power of a Faith that has changed us into conveyers of the Love of Christ.

With love in Christ,
Abbot Tryphon

Sunday July 7, 2019 / June 24, 2019
3rd Sunday after Pentecost. Tone two.
Apostles’ (Peter & Paul) Fast. Fish Allowed
Korobeinikov-Kazan Icon of the Most Holy Theotokos (movable holiday on the Saturday after to June 18th ).
Celebration in Vologda to the venerable fathers of Vologda (movable holiday on the 3rd Sunday of Pentecost).
Synaxis of Novgorod Hierarchs (movable holiday on the 3rd Sunday of Pentecost).
Synaxis of Saints of Belorussia (movable holiday on the 3rd Sunday of Pentecost): St. Menas, Bishop of Polotsk (1116), St Dionysius bishop Polotsk (1182), Cyril Bishop of Turiv (1183), Lavrenti Bishop of Turiv (1184), Symeon bishop Polotsk (1289); Blessed Great Prince Rostislav (baptize as Michael), of Kiev (1167); Venerable Martyrs Athanasius, Higumen of Brest (1648), Makarius Kabevsky Higumen of Pinsk (1678); Venerable Martin Turovsky (1150), Elise Lavrishevsk (1250); venerable Ephrosinia of Polotsk (1173), Martyr child Gabriel Belostotsky (1690); righteous Juliana princes Olshansky (1550), and Sophia princes Slutsk (1612).
Synaxis of Saints of Pskov (movable holiday on the 3rd Sunday of Pentecost).
Synaxis of Saints of St. Petersburg (movable holiday on the 3rd Sunday of Pentecost).
New Martyrs of the Turkish Yoke (movable holiday on the 3rd Sunday of Pentecost).
Nativity of St. John the Baptist.
Venerable Anthony, abbot of Dymsk (Novgorod) (1224).
Righteous Youths John (1566) and James (1569) of Meniugi (Novgorod).
Martyrs Orentius, Pharnacius, Eros, Firmus, Firminus, Cyriacus, and Longinus, in Georgia (3rd c.).
St. Nicetas, bishop of Remesiana (414) (Neth.).
Venerable John, monk, of Yaransk (Solovki) (1561).
St. Michael, great prince of Tver (1319).
New Martyr Panagiotes of Caesarea in Cappadocia (1765) (Greek).
Translation of the relics (1492) of Martyr John the New (1332) to Suceava, Romania (Romania).
Synaxis of the Righteous Zacharias and Elizabeth (Greek).
St. John the Hermit of Bohemia (904).
St. Athanasius of Paros (1813).
St. Gerasim (Dobroserdov), bishop of Astrakhan and Enotaeva (1880).

The Scripture Readings

Mark 16:9-20

Mary Magdalene Sees the Risen Lord

9 Now when He rose early on the first day of the week, He appeared first to Mary Magdalene, out of whom He had cast seven demons. 10 She went and told those who had been with Him, as they mourned and wept. 11 And when they heard that He was alive and had been seen by her, they did not believe.

Jesus Appears to Two Disciples

12 After that, He appeared in another form to two of them as they walked and went into the country. 13 And they went and told it to the rest, but they did not believe them either.

The Great Commission

14 Later He appeared to the eleven as they sat at the table; and He rebuked their unbelief and hardness of heart, because they did not believe those who had seen Him after He had risen. 15 And He said to them, “Go into all the world and preach the gospel to every creature. 16 He who believes and is baptized will be saved; but he who does not believe will be condemned. 17 And these signs will follow those who [b]believe: In My name they will cast out demons; they will speak with new tongues; 18 they[c] will take up serpents; and if they drink anything deadly, it will by no means hurt them; they will lay hands on the sick, and they will recover.”

Christ Ascends to God’s Right Hand

19 So then, after the Lord had spoken to them, He was received up into heaven, and sat down at the right hand of God. 20 And they went out and preached everywhere, the Lord working with them and confirming the word through the accompanying signs. Amen.

Romans 5:1-10

Faith Triumphs in Trouble

5 Therefore, having been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, 2 through whom also we have access by faith into this grace in which we stand, and rejoice in hope of the glory of God. 3 And not only that, but we also glory in tribulations, knowing that tribulation produces perseverance; 4 and perseverance, character; and character, hope. 5 Now hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out in our hearts by the Holy Spirit who was given to us.

Christ in Our Place

6 For when we were still without strength, in due time Christ died for the ungodly. 7 For scarcely for a righteous man will one die; yet perhaps for a good man someone would even dare to die. 8 But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. 9 Much more then, having now been justified by His blood, we shall be saved from wrath through Him. 10 For if when we were enemies we were reconciled to God through the death of His Son, much more, having been reconciled, we shall be saved by His life.

Matthew 6:22-33

The Lamp of the Body

22 “The lamp of the body is the eye. If therefore your eye is good, your whole body will be full of light. 23 But if your eye is bad, your whole body will be full of darkness. If therefore the light that is in you is darkness, how great is that darkness!

You Cannot Serve God and Riches

24 “No one can serve two masters; for either he will hate the one and love the other, or else he will be loyal to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and mammon.

Do Not Worry

25 “Therefore I say to you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink; nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food and the body more than clothing? 26 Look at the birds of the air, for they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? 27 Which of you by worrying can add one[d]cubit to his stature?

28 “So why do you worry about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin; 29 and yet I say to you that even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. 30 Now if God so clothes the grass of the field, which today is, and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, will He not much more clothe you, O you of little faith?

31 “Therefore do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ 32 For after all these things the Gentiles seek. For your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things. 33 But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Abbot Tryphon

About Abbot Tryphon

The Very. Rev. Abbot Tryphon is Igumen of All-Merciful Saviour Monastery on Vashon Island, Washington. Situated in the heart of a beautiful forest, surrounded by the Salish Sea, the monastery is reached by ferry from either Seattle, or Tacoma, Washington.


  1. Good Morning Father,

    I daily read the Morning Offering and am enriched by the simplicity of heart and mind that receives Christ and His Word.

    Today’s teaching I believe encompasses the heart of all true believers, wanting others to experience Jesus love and forgiveness. To encounter John 14:6 and 8:32, to become followers of the Gospel. It is not a certain way of Worship or Tradition but a life that is given that is eternal, where in Christ we live move and have our being. For all of us no matter what assembly we find ourselves providentially part of we are to exalt Christ and endeavor to live by His Spirit. That the fruit of the Spirit may be manifest to others. Then people will be drawn to Christ and will be introduced to Him in the gathering of ourselves within the churches we are part of. To focus on a certain flavor of church organization versus the living organism of His Body misses what He came to initiate. Follow me and I will make you fishers of men.

    I’ve learned to find Christ in many expressions of the church, some exude Christ more than others. Yet it is in the midst of humility and love that we experience His Presence. May we as His followers learn to bring others to Christ then He said His sheep will hear His voice and follow Him.

    Keep up the good work of ministering Christ to all those He has entrusted to your discipleship. Agape, Clarke

    1. Pastor,
      I of course believe that all Christ-centered individuals are united with me, in an unseen way. However, only within the Orthodox Church does one find the “True Faith, once delivered to the saints”. It is also through this ancient Church that we Orthodox receive the very Body and Blood of Christ, giving us the spiritual nourishment and healing we so desperately need. It is only through the Orthodox Church that we can benefit from the life-changing Mystery of Penance, and only through the Church that we can know to true meaning of the Scriptures, given the Orthodox Church’s adherence to the interpretation of the Bible as passed on by the Church Fathers.
      This is why I speak out in calling others “home” to the Church.There is an old saying which I love: How can we have God as our father, if we do not have the Church as our mother?

  2. Well said Fr. Tryphon. This is the approach I take with friends who claim to be non believers and those who already profess Christianity. I’m always respectful.

  3. Thank you, Abbot Tryphon, for this wonderful guidance on sharing the Ancient Faith. I converted to Orthodoxy from Evangelical Protestantism where I never really felt comfortable with “aggressive” evangelism and always felt guilty about that. As an Orthodox believer I still struggle with how to share the Faith with my Protestant family members and friends. Any direction you can provide (such as today’s excellent blog) is most appreciated. Please know of my prayers for your continuing recovery.

  4. There must be some element of “they were just ready for it” involved. The person has to be ready to see Orthodoxy as the only viable option. Otherwise, the “rules” and idiosyncrasies, not to mention the terribly muddy history of American Orthodoxy, will be a turn-off. I had a friend ask me about it and I told him what I knew and he went to matins (probably not the most dramatic service) one morning, but he saw it in terms of a preferred style of worship. He’ll probably have to go down a few more theological dead ends before realizing that there’s only one consistent Christian Church.

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