#selfcare

“On an airplane, as a flight prepares to depart, the flight attendant tells the passengers that, in case of an emergency, oxygen bags will drop from overhead. Those passengers with infants will receive two masks. The adult is to put his or her own oxygen mask on first, and only then put a mask on the infant. For me, as an Italian grandfather, those instructions are counterintuitive. I want to give my…

Why Lent?

To be reminded of grace is grace itself, shorter the shadows fall. Illumination now is lit, and lighter is heavy life, yet like lace, with all its order designed to be seen through, I see and avow the bit that’s brighter – From “Lent” by Maurice Manning Why Lent? I mean what is it, besides refraining from certain foods – a laundry list of “nos”? One has to be careful not to…

You Cannot Be Too Gentle

“You cannot be too gentle, too kind. Shun even to appear harsh in your treatment of each other. Joy, radiant joy, streams from the face of one who gives and kindles joy in the heart of one who receives. All condemnation is from the devil. Never condemn each other, not even those whom you catch committing an evil deed. We condemn others only because we shun knowing ourselves. When we gaze at…

What We Need Is Here

  What We Need Is Here Geese appear high over us, pass, and the sky closes. Abandon, as in love or sleep, holds them to their way, clear in the ancient faith: what we need is here. And we pray, not for new earth or heaven, but to be quiet in heart, and in eye, clear. What we need is here. – Wendell Berry For decades, I placed contingencies on my joy: …