An Emerging Fullness

2017 arrived just when I needed it most. I’m not great at keeping resolutions or anything but I can’t help being lured into introspection by official new beginnings. I’ve been in dire need of purging stale thought patterns to make room for fresh perspectives.

The last several months were … well… actually, I don’t want to dwell on them. Let’s just say they were “trying.” I think we can all agree on that.

And I may or may not have had a small midlife crisis, questioning much of what I’d believed about my faith, my competency as a mother, and my purpose on this planet for the last twenty years.

So yeah, 2016 was a real trip, but I am hoping, praying, trusting, I am better for having wrestled with it, or that at least I’m more humble, gentle, and child-like than I’ve ever been before.

There is something so purifying about arriving, after much struggle, on the threshold of a mysterious unknown filled with a million more questions than answers, but also more wonder.

The late Irish poet and philosopher John O’Donohue has been such an encouragement to me, opening my mind to the possibility that by letting go of old assumptions and learning to abide patiently and prayerfully in the questions, a metamorphosis can take place within my heart, revealing beauty I’ve not experienced before.

Beauty, O’Donohue explained, is about more rounded substantial becoming. And when we cross a new threshold worthily, what we do is we heal the patterns of repetition that were in us that had us caught somewhere. So I think beauty in that sense is about an emerging fullness, a greater sense of grace and elegance, a deeper sense of depth, and also a kind of homecoming for the enriched memory of your unfolding life.

False confidence, fear, and pride kept me preoccupied for too long with the ugly and the evil, and the “what is wrong with myself, and this world?” ruminations meant to keep me judgmental and anxious and ashamed, basically impotent and enslaved to earthly cares. I lost my joy! I lost my gratitude!

I think my main longing this year is to die to my obsession with “understanding” and self-preservation, and to pursue, above all else, the unearthing of divine beauty in all things and all people.

And that’s it.

May every prayer I pray, sacrament I participate in, and self-centered sin I repent of, fuel me to pursue with joy and doggedness that one desire.

Unless we look at a person and see the beauty there is in this person, we can contribute nothing to him. One does not help a person by discerning what is wrong, what is ugly, what is distorted. Christ looked at everyone he met, at the prostitute, at the thief, and saw the beauty hidden there. Perhaps it was distorted, perhaps damaged, but it was beauty none the less, and what he did was to call out this beauty.

– Metropolitan Anthony of Sourozh

Let this mysterious future come to us; wrote Fr. Alexander Schmemann, for, whatever it might bring with it, we know and believe that God is with us, that Christ has not orphaned us, that He is faithful that promised (Hebrews 10:23). Here are the marvelous words of Vladimir Soloviev:

Death and time reign on earth,
Do not call them your masters;
Everything, whirling about, disappears in the haze

The only thing fixed is the sun of love.

Peace, patience, and perseverance to you all!


  1. Amen sister. As someone who ‘rose from the ashes’ myself a couple of years ago, I know the truth of what you speak personally and it comforts me that you have the courage to witness such a common (but mostly unspoken) human experience. Until we are able as a community/society to address the infamous ‘mid-life crisis’ without judging it, we will never fully understand the meaning of ‘mental health’ in our community and the sanctity of human life and longing… Thank you.

  2. Thank you for sharing this, Molly. I’m not sure that it’s ever easy to be open about our struggles, but the wisdom you draw from your experience is both inspiring and encouraging. I remember reading a post you wrote this past summer that resonated so deeply that it has stayed with me ever since, and after reading this new post I have the feeling that I, too, will be reflecting on gratitude, humility and the unearthing of divine beauty this year.
    Thank you!

    1. Bless you, Colette! Thank you for commenting. It is never easy to be vulnerable. I really wrestle with it. Authenticity makes me sweat, but without it I fear I will never experience true transformative growth, or even a genuine sense of community. Reading your words fills me with much hope and gratitude! xo

  3. Molly – Thank you for this post. Changing, or rather becoming, is something that I’ve been thinking a lot about this year, both personally and because I am teaching a class on the Hero’s Journey, which is all about becoming. I think I will put the O’Donohue quote before my students this next week and see what they think about it. 🙂

    1. Hi there, Emily! How lovely to hear from you! : ) I would love to hear how your students respond to O’Donohue’s wisdom. His definition of “becoming” has been so helpful to me personally.

  4. Loved his piece. Which book of O’Donohue’s did you quote from? I am about to purchase his recent one of Blessings. Thank you.

    1. I meant loved “this” piece. Your writing is so full of warmth and meaning and suffering and love and grace.

      1. Thank you, thank you for your kind words. I pulled the John O’Donohue quote from an interview he did with Krista Tippett for “On Being.” The book he wrote I am most familiar with is “Anam Cara.” And I come back to his poetry often when I need spiritual refreshment.

  5. Thank you for writing this! I so “get” what you are expressing and also very very much appreciate the quotes you’ve included! Reading this was like getting a big New Year’s gift of blessing, reminding me that God is Love and He is ever present and filling all things. God bless you and your family in all ways!

  6. Hi Molly,

    I’ve always loved reading your blog and follow you on instagram. Out of curiosity, will you be writing again? There hasn’t been a new post since this one (over a year ago) 🙁

  7. Hi Molly!

    My family and I have been learning about Orthodoxy and I read aloud an article of your coming to the faith to everyone (parents in law, husband and sister in law) and wondered if there is any way to be in touch with you. I have questions, a like yours you had then in the beginning and I would love to talk with someone of like backgrounds of faith entering into this very different faith.

    Do you have a way I I am able to contact you? I would be so very encouraged!

    Thank you for your gently offered words of life that so easily speak more….

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